KINDA RELIEF

Hi Nadeena

From reading your posts and seeing the way you explain yourself it's apparent that you are a highly intelligent person who in no way deserves to be threatened or disrespected by anyone. 

I am sorry to hear that you are still suffering deeply from the effects of this very unfortunate situation as it really hurts me to see that people who were once close and cared about each other at some point in time, fairly recently at that, are now so angry and hurt by each other. And hopefully soon you will be able to resume both your home life and professional life as well.

You like every other human being on this earth have feelings and feelings are not something to be taken lightly. It's unfortunate that some people do not take feelings into consideration when they act out at others. I am glad to hear that you are healing, you will, each day going forward. When someone touches our lives and leaves a deep mark it's hard to erase them. Also when unpleasant events touch us suddenly they can also leave unpleasant and sad feelings behind. 

I truly understand what you are feeling, I too have been in such situations. I know what the loss of a friendship is, for whatever reason, can be painful and even devastating and whomever is at fault whether it be one or both can become a question for both sides. 

When someone decides to end a relationship whether it be personal, professional, or whatever kind, that is their right as a human being, if it "hurts" the other party well that is just unfortunate. It happens everyday and that is the reality of life. The other party does not have the right to go after them and try and destroy their reputation for it, or... (do) other things that you in your mind feel justified doing. 

There are always going to be problems in your lives of all different kinds. It's how you handle them that is going to determine how long they are going to last and how they are going to affect your lives going forward. A lot of what happened stems from immaturity or lack of experience, and when people are get defensive, whether it's justified or not, they can go ballistic, and not think of what consequences their actions may bring.

Whatever happened has already happened. It can't be undone.

Once again, I will tell you it's time to move on, as much as you don't like hearing that, it's the truth.

From reading your blogs, I can tell you are a positive person, on a straight path to making yourself into the person you want to be and what can I say, keep your eyes on yourself, always love and put yourself first before anyone else.

I see you have put a lot of effort into self improvement and I congratulate you for that. I hope that you can reach ALL of your goals and that your life continues on a path which makes you happy with yourself and those that surround you. Look at this whole ugly episode as a bump in the road on your path to self improvement. Don't allow any of the poison that has seeped out of this to get in the way of your goals. Is this really that important, keep focusing on yourself. 

Nadeena, keep improving yourself, work towards your goals in life and forget about people who have caused you pain, I myself have had to do the very, same thing and after a while your human spirit will lift you up and the unpleasant memories of this situation will be left in the distant past. 

I wish you lots of success and all of the happiness in the world.

All the best to you,

Dave.